16 Characteristics Of True Love

Love. It makes the world go ’round, right? Well, at least that’s the how the saying goes. But is it true? It should be, but so many people confuse love with things like jealousy or possessiveness. True love isn’t either of those things. But these 16 things are.

So here are the characteristics of REAL love:

1. Love means saying goodbye to expectations.

Sure, we all want people to behave the way we want them to. We want them to be more affectionate. Or more outgoing. Or smarter. Or more ambitious. All of these things are expectations. Expectations are just your requirements for “acceptability” of loving someone. But true love has no expectations. It simply loves “as is.”

2. Love doesn’t play the victim role or blame others.

Love doesn’t think others are “out to get them.” Love doesn’t think their loved ones are wrong. Love works together. It takes responsibility. It forgives and allows other people’s actions to be their journey. Love doesn’t take things personally.

3. Love includes letting go.

Love doesn’t equal possession. Just as the saying goes, “If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it’s yours. If it doesn’t, then it never was.” There is truth to that. Love allows people their freedom. It doesn’t hold tightly and crush their wings in attempt to keep them. True love doesn’t want to possess. It is willing to set you free if you want to be.

4. Love doesn’t require you to continue a relationship.

You may love someone very much, but you may not be compatible with them. Or they may drive you crazy with their continued disregard for your feelings. You can still love them, but that doesn’t mean you have to be with them. Love doesn’t mean that you have to stay, and stay and stay. You can leave the relationship and love them anyway.

5. Love has no room for jealousy.

Like possession, jealousy doesn’t equal love. We think that if we’re not jealous of our loved ones that it means that we don’t love them. True love has confidence in the quality of the relationship. It knows that the other person is happy and content coming back to you and only you.

6. Love is the absence of fear.

You can put all emotions on a continuum. On one end, you have love. Then appreciation. After that, it’s joy, happiness, contentment and satisfaction. On the opposite end of the continuum of love is fear. Other fear-based emotions include, hatred, insecurity, jealousy or greed.

7. Love is not needing, but wanting.

One of the things we try to teach kids is that there is a clear difference between a want and a need. Needing someone is a feeling based in fear. You fear that you can’t live without them, so you need them. And remember, fear is the opposite of love. Wanting someone in your life gives them the freedom to leave, but still shows them you love them.

8. Love is an action, not just a feeling.

Humans tend to be addicted to intense emotion — especially when it feels good. So, when we’re in love, we want to feel that way forever. But guess what? That higher than “Cloud 9″ feeling goes away after a while. That doesn’t mean you don’t love the other person anymore, it just means that it’s not new anymore. So that’s where the action needs to kick in. Show the person you love them. Don’t just assume they know.

9. Love is unconditional.

The word “unconditional” means that there are no expectations or limitations set. To love unconditionally is a difficult thing, and most humans aren’t good at that. But true love really does love without trying to change the other person.

10. Love means putting other people’s needs equal to — or before — your own.

While people may be inherently selfish for survival purposes, this does not serve us well in relationships. If you don’t put other people’s needs at least equal to your own, they will grow resentful. Real love truly, genuinely cares about other people’s happiness and will go to great lengths to make people feel valued.

11. Love is the highest vibration emotion that there is.

Science has proven that emotions like love and fear have very different vibrations. They can actually measure them. Love vibrates very fast, whereas fear-based emotions (think jealousy, possessiveness, hatred, greed, etc.) vibrate very slowly. When you love completely and unconditionally, there is no fear involved. The vibrations of love make you feel good at all times.

12. Love requires attention.

Love doesn’t ignore. It doesn’t look the other way. It wants to be present and be together. When people are in love, sometimes they think that they don’t have to “do any more work.” But real love actually enjoys giving attention to another person. It feels good, and doesn’t see giving attention to another person as a chore.

13. Love understands and accepts differences.

Let’s face it: We’re all different. Even identical twins aren’t exactly the same. They have different experiences and outlooks about the world. Real love doesn’t make other people wrong for being different. When people truly love another person, they accept their differences.

14. Love varies in how it is expressed and accepted.

What makes us “feel loved” varies. In the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, he explains the different ways people give and receive love: (1) Words (2) Acts of Service, (3) Giving Gifts, (4) Spending Time Together and (5) Touch. It’s important to discover other people’s love language so you can understand each other and give love in a way that the other person recognizes it.

15. Love makes you feel good, not bad.

Many people confuse being in a relationship with love. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean there is true love present. If there is jealousy, possessiveness, constant fighting, abuse (verbal, emotional or physical), that is not love. Refer back to #6. Those are fear-based emotions and actions.

16. Love has empathy.

Empathy is the ability to put yourself into another person’s shoes and see a situation from his/her point of view. Love has deep empathy. “When you hurt, I hurt.” People who truly love one another don’t want to hurt them. They want them to feel good. They care about their feelings and try everything they can to make them feel valued and worthy.

Remember, love is happiness, appreciation and feeling good. Anything other than that is not love. If we all loved one another as ourselves, the world would be a better place!

Source: www.naijabadoo.com

Top 10 Beauty Blunders Made By Women That Turn Men Off

We all know that every woman loves to dress up well and wear the best makeup before she steps out of her home. And why shouldn’t this love be there? After all, it gives a really good feeling when she make heads turn, wherever she goes.

Well, you certainly would be aware of the fact that the spruced up look is one of the keys to grab the attention of the man of your dreams for all good reasons. But, are you also aware of the things that turn a man off? Yes, there are certain beauty blunders that women commonly make, and they rarely do go unnoticed by men. So, take a look at this list to find out what those beauty blunders that are, so that you can avoid them.

#1. Eyes full of glitter

We know the love that most women have for the glittery eyes, especially when they get ready for a party. But, unless you want to scare your guy away, go a little light on the glitter. Men prefer to stare right into your eyes rather than being haunted by the ones overloaded with glitter. So, allow them to do so by either avoiding the glitter or by keeping it as subtle as possible.

#2. Layers of foundation

Ideally, foundation is applied on the entire face and neck, to give you an even-toned complexion and hide the dark spots and patches. So, if you end up applying layers of foundation in an attempt to look fairer, it will only make your face look unnatural and cakey. And believe us, men do appreciate the natural beauty and hence, your pancake face is something that is not going to work in your favour to attract them.

When a guy is with you, there are high chances that he would not actually notice the length or density of your eyelashes. But, he certainly will notice them when they are overdone with makeup. So, better don’t make him feel bad about your style sense by applying tons on mascara on your lashes.

Well, if you lack the skills of doing a good eye makeup, then why not try something easier? Like, wearing the fake lashes! And if you don’t know the process, then here is How To Apply False Eyelashes In 5 Easy Steps

#4. Hairy body

Undoubtedly, hairy body parts are a complete turn off for men. This is one of those things, which no guy ever fails to notice. So, to save yourself from the embarrassment, always stay well-groomed at all the times, and especially when you are going out for a date or a party.

#5. Dry skin

While the well-hydrated skin always gives a good feeling to your man whenever he touches you, the rough skin of course, does not even look good. Usually, men do not like to see dry hands or cracked heels. So, if your skin type is dry, keep it hydrated with a good moisturiser.

#6. Very sticky or chapped lips

Overdoing any part of your body with makeup might get you the attention, but definitely not for any good reasons. That is why, applying excess of gloss on your lips is not a good idea. So, it is better to go subtle. And, even chapped lips are a turn off for most men. Thus, keep them moisturised with a good lip balm.

#7. Dark lip outline

Here is yet another beauty mistake that women are usually observed to be making, that is, they do not merge the lip colour with that of the lip liner. Just imagine his plight when he has to see lips with a dark outline that smudges on to your face loaded with foundation! So, save your man from being sacred of you and wear a lip liner that is of the exact colour as your lipstick. After all, you would also want to make your lips look soft and kissable. Right?

#8. Perfume overload

Women need to understand that when it comes to perfumes, a little is enough. And, a little more is actually much more than enough! Men want you to smell good when they hold you in their arms, but they definitely would not want to have watery eyes because of the fumes of your perfume overload. It might get even worse if too much of perfume gives them a headache.

If you are finding it tough to pick the one that is sure to drive him crazy, then play safe by trying the Scents to Woo Your Partner According to Their Zodiac Sign

#9. Extra-long nails

When your guy would be with you, he will definitely want to hold your hand and look into your eyes. However, he definitely will not like the idea of getting stung by your ‘witchy nails’. So, better maintain an average length for your nails, which looks neat and stylish at the same time. Also, wear nail colours that suit your skin tone rather than just wearing something that is in trend. Neon colours may be the hot favourites of the season, but it is not at all worth applying them if they do not suit your complexion.

#10. Heavily sprayed hair

One of the things that most men appreciate in women is their natural hair. Too much hair spray and setting might make your hairdo look like a wig. Unnatural looking hair would obviously turn your man off as it restricts him to gently sway his hands on his lady love’s hair.

So, next time before going out for a party or a date, keep these points in mind so that you don’t scare your man away! After all, makeup should be helping you to enhance your beautiful looks rather than spoiling them. Right?

Source: www.naijabadoo.com

Mocheddah’s red hot outfit to her sister’s engagement ceremony(Photo)

Mochedda sure knows how to turn heads. The star looked smashing for her sister’s engagement today..

Mochedda sure knows how to turn heads. The star looked smashing for her sister’s engagement today..

Huh! What’s Beyonce doing…

Isn’t this adorable? Beyonce playing at the beach with Blue Ivy.. Looks like she’s pregnant or trying to pass a message..The bump mould

Isn’t this adorable? Beyonce playing at the beach with Blue Ivy.. Looks like she’s pregnant or trying to pass a message..The bump mould

APC office bombed in Rivers State

Political violence raged in parts of the country on Sunday with an explosion rocking the All Progressives Congress secretariat in Abam Ama, Okrika Local Government Area of Rivers State.

Just as the news of the explosion hit Port Harcourt, another round of violence was recorded in Rumueme, Obio/Akpor LGA where four APC members were machetted by persons believed to be political thugs.

Persons believed to be political thugs threw dynamite into the three-storey APC secretariat at about 3.14am which caused extensive damage to the ground floor.

APC Chairman in the LGA, Christian Asifamak, who narrated the incident, said that his office was the worst hit as the entire wall was pulled down by the impact of the explosion. His words:



“In the early hours of Sunday, some unknown group of persons threw dynamite into our party secretariat, he explained, lamenting that the attack was “a deliberate provocation by our opponents, the Peoples Democratic Party, to draw the APC into a battle that could destabilise our LGA.”

He warned that “the APC in Okrika would not allow Okrika to become a hotbed of crises as the PDP would wish.”

Asifamak claimed that the PDP had resorted to violence because of its rejection by the Okrika for failing to bring development to their LGA.

He added, “Till now the East-West Road through which we access our community has been left abandoned by a PDP-led Federal Government while Governor Chibuike Amaechi who is not an Okrika man built a ring road in Okrika and also rebuilt the portion of the federal road that links the LGA to the Port Harcourt refinery.

“We however wish to warn our brothers in the PDP to remember that the land of Okrika has been known to defend itself and its people against aggression and that any Okrika person who brings crisis to the land answers for it.”

Also, the governorship candidate of the APC in the state, Dr. Dakuku Peterside, who was in the community to assess the extent of the damage, expressed worry that the PDP and its supporters had initiated a pattern of attacks on the people of the state.

“The Police and other security agencies should tackle the excesses of the opposition party. This development is very sad and it is unfortunate that some persons in the society have decided to choose this path.

“If you have noticed, there has been a pattern of violence lately. On January 6, when we had our presidential rally at the Stadium, you would have noted that some of our people who were coming from Abonnema, Degema and Asari-Toru axis were attacked around Sa-Ama junction.

“The persons who were coming from Kaani and Gokana were attacked around Saakpenwa junction. Some other groups who were coming for the same rally were attacked around Elele. All fingers point to the other political party, the PDP.

“We have raised these issues with the Commissioner of Police; we have raised it with the security agencies. Not much has been done after then. Aside from that, you must also have observed a trend. A few days ago, they were in Abonnema to campaign; a faction of PDP fought with another faction of the PDP and two persons were confirmed dead.”

When contacted, the state Police Public Relations Officer, Mr. Ahmad Mohammad, said the police were already investigating the explosion.

Political violence raged in parts of the country on Sunday with an explosion rocking the All Progressives Congress secretariat in Abam Ama, Okrika Local Government Area of Rivers State.

Just as the news of the explosion hit Port Harcourt, another round of violence was recorded in Rumueme, Obio/Akpor LGA where four APC members were machetted by persons believed to be political thugs.

Persons believed to be political thugs threw dynamite into the three-storey APC secretariat at about 3.14am which caused extensive damage to the ground floor.

APC Chairman in the LGA, Christian Asifamak, who narrated the incident, said that his office was the worst hit as the entire wall was pulled down by the impact of the explosion. His words:



“In the early hours of Sunday, some unknown group of persons threw dynamite into our party secretariat, he explained, lamenting that the attack was “a deliberate provocation by our opponents, the Peoples Democratic Party, to draw the APC into a battle that could destabilise our LGA.”

He warned that “the APC in Okrika would not allow Okrika to become a hotbed of crises as the PDP would wish.”

Asifamak claimed that the PDP had resorted to violence because of its rejection by the Okrika for failing to bring development to their LGA.

He added, “Till now the East-West Road through which we access our community has been left abandoned by a PDP-led Federal Government while Governor Chibuike Amaechi who is not an Okrika man built a ring road in Okrika and also rebuilt the portion of the federal road that links the LGA to the Port Harcourt refinery.

“We however wish to warn our brothers in the PDP to remember that the land of Okrika has been known to defend itself and its people against aggression and that any Okrika person who brings crisis to the land answers for it.”

Also, the governorship candidate of the APC in the state, Dr. Dakuku Peterside, who was in the community to assess the extent of the damage, expressed worry that the PDP and its supporters had initiated a pattern of attacks on the people of the state.

“The Police and other security agencies should tackle the excesses of the opposition party. This development is very sad and it is unfortunate that some persons in the society have decided to choose this path.

“If you have noticed, there has been a pattern of violence lately. On January 6, when we had our presidential rally at the Stadium, you would have noted that some of our people who were coming from Abonnema, Degema and Asari-Toru axis were attacked around Sa-Ama junction.

“The persons who were coming from Kaani and Gokana were attacked around Saakpenwa junction. Some other groups who were coming for the same rally were attacked around Elele. All fingers point to the other political party, the PDP.

“We have raised these issues with the Commissioner of Police; we have raised it with the security agencies. Not much has been done after then. Aside from that, you must also have observed a trend. A few days ago, they were in Abonnema to campaign; a faction of PDP fought with another faction of the PDP and two persons were confirmed dead.”

When contacted, the state Police Public Relations Officer, Mr. Ahmad Mohammad, said the police were already investigating the explosion.

US War College affirms Buhari’s Certificate (PHOTO)

Now you know, General Muhammadu Buhari did not lie in his affidavit. Here’s a confirmation of one of his certificates with the US war college, 1980 class.

Now you know, General Muhammadu Buhari did not lie in his affidavit. Here’s a confirmation of one of his certificates with the US war college, 1980 class.

NADIA BUARI IS PREGNANT AND JIM IYKE ISN’T THE FATHER

Wow, this comes as a shocker to me and everyone else!!!

Sources claim that, Nadia Buari broke up with Jim Iyke a while ago and started dating a new hunk who she is reportedly already pregnant for.

This report was run by Trace and I’ll let you read from the horse’s mouth: –

After reading this piece, you sure will consider The Trace the TMZ of Africa; especially after all we had to go through to derive this exclusive information when no one at Team NSB agreed to an interview with our reporters.

Well, if you have been wondering why Jim Iyke isn’t regular in Ghana like he used to be, this is your juice! And if you have also wondered why both Jim and Nadia aren’t seen coupling it up together in public any longer, Wonder no more. This article will come through as good news for all those who imagined Jim Iyke taking advantage of the Ghanaian goddess but will certainly settle as bad news for all the “NADJIs” who expected Africa’s biggest celebrity wedding.

So on Sunday December 7th 2014, romancemeetslife.com reported Nadia Buari was spotted with a humongous diamond ring at the burial of the late mother of co-actor Majid Michel which was linked to Jim Iyke and that was completely logical until we took a closer look and realized the ring on her finger differed from the one Jim proposed with, this one is actually bigger, nicer and much more expensive.

This raised our suspicions of a possible split between the two so we decided to investigate. You will find our discoveries rather fascinating.

Firstly, we observed Nadia in her recent pictures has gained weight and wears very lose clothes sighting the black lace robe she wore to Majid’s late mum’s funeral and the white cloth she wrapped during her birthday getaway as evidence.

Secondly, Nadia recently followed a new account on twitter which seemed quite gauche because we all know she only follows 30 accounts out of her 300,000 followers which include majorly her family, management with selected fans and friends.

Lastly, we also discovered the beautiful actress had taken more trips than usual to the USA, particularly Atlanta within the last few months. We are made aware Nadia resides in California but it all summed up when we received pictures of her with cooling with a hunk in Atlanta. Our sources suggest he is an old college mate but we suspect more.

Source: www.naijabadoo.com